WORK SMART

As past posts have described, I am trying to work smarter not harder. I have found when trying to work smarter you have to say the word "NO." kind of a lot.

In the past I have hated saying this word for many reasons. Fear of disappointment/hurting feelings/making people feel like I don't care about them/ (and my favorite) being a BAD friend. Which is something I was told when I was little and sadly took it to heart.

Here are the reasons I should say "NO."

By saying "NO" I am able to place healthy boundaries between work and home. (I.e. working past or before allotted time for appointments.)

By saying "no" I am exercising my free agency to choose what I will, and will not do with my time. Therefore respecting myself. In turn able to fully recharge, and be more capable of serving others.

By saying "No" I am not spread so thin that I take it out on those I love the most. ( Isn't it funny that we choose the ones that support us best to fall apart on?)

So here is my practice for saying "No" today.

Client calls

Client- Hilaree, Can I change my appointment to a morning appointment?

(I only work at night now.)

Me- No

" a lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part." -Gma Shauna

The End!

Well, I was very diplomatic, but you get the gist.

Anyway my 2 cents for the day. Try saying 'NO' sometime, you might love it/hate it. Whatever, its good for you. I can see that it's good for me and that makes me 'Happy'

Love,

Hil

Wow THIS MONTH!!!

This is just a little update on how the 'Happiness Project" is going.

I find it interesting when you are trying your best, your best is tested. While I have reviewed the 'projects' of the month I have been hit with some really hard things that are testing my metal. Some of these things I didn't want to write about, but I realize that you will not see the full measure of the good without the bad. Don't worry this will not be a depressing post. :)

This month I am supposed to live in the moment. I tend to be 15 minutes ahead of myself AT ALL TIMES. So I have tried to recognize moments and capture them in my mind, every color, sound, texture and emotion. So far it has worked pretty well, especially with Noa and Jarom. Here is where my metal was tested............

Once upon a time, there was a mommy with a sleeping baby in the carriage. The mommy knew that the baby boy would be waking soon; so she bought the kiddo a kids meal from ye, yucky wendy's. The baby boy was sleeping and so mommy thought that maybe since she was right by 'dear lizzy' she would run in and grab some soap. real quick.... ( mom's, most of you know where this is going) the mommy left her little snuggle in the carriage and parked in a way so that she could see him. Ran into 'dear lizzy' and ran out. ( Yes, I know I shouldn't have done this. and trust me after this episode, it wont happen again.) When the mommy got back out to the carriage 5 minutes later, there was a kindly woman disguised as a wicked witch who took the liberty of telling the mommy that she was going to call the kings horseman on her and that she was a horrible mother for leaving her little boy in the carriage. The mommy told the kindly woman disguised as a wicked witch that it was " non of her affair" jumped in the carriage and cried all the way back to the castle of Garlick. (everyone knows my house as the 'Garlicks' house.)

The mommy thought that she really was a horrible mommy and that soon the kings horseman would soon come to behead her. But never fear the kindly woman disguised as a wicked witch was full of hot air and peppers, and the kings horseman never did arrive.

The moral of my story is this. Yes, mommy makes mistakes, and yes, sometimes REALLY BIG ONES. But the thing that makes this mommy a good/great mommy is that she is willing to learn and grow. She recognized that she was wrong and now she really does appreciate the kindly woman disguised as a WICKED WITCH. The end.

Story # 2

I am struggling with the decision to dissolve my business altogether or expand.... Unfortunately, when one leaves a place of business sometimes there can be hurt feelings or just immaturity. Even if your ex- boss is in her 40's. Long story short facebook has a way of showing you who people really are. (so be careful what you post) :) I was called A B@#$% and someone threatened to punch me or implied that I should be punched. All because I requested that facebook remove my pictures from that salons page. It was not meant out of anger or hatred. It was merely the next step to have my pictures removed as other efforts didn't work. The main reason I left was to expand and later found that nice things were not being said about me. Some times it is hard to grow because people like things the way that they are/feel intimidated/don't want you to succeed etc. The lesson from this experience is this, I will continue to grow and succeed no matter what I do. Because it is in me. It's in all of us. We have greatness instilled within us. it reminds me of a quote my mom has on her bathroom wall :)

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. And It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” (a very inspired woman) Marianne Williamson

Today is the start of the rest of my life and I will let my light shine, my goal/promise is that I will let your light shine too :) we can be bright together, therefore being 'Happier' together mmmmmk!

Love,

Hilaree

Noa's BIRTHDAY!!

Little Noa is 2! I can't believe how the time is flying by!

( Start from the bottom and work your way up.)

ok let's do it together. I love you Noa Thank you for letting us be your parents!
Blow out the candles
Make a wish my little angel...

Heres the daddy and he is so cute.

Here's the cake! Its so Cute!

To all you Beautiful Women

As I have had the special privilege of being on the Relief society committee I have had lots of opportunities to serve. One of the most recent opportunities required that I make a short film of relief society around the world. The link that I posted above is not my work, but I did pattern mine after it. I wanted to share this particular one because this whole project got the wheels rolling in my head.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PqfCXBsXGfQ

Women are beautiful by their very nature. We naturally are nurturing, loving and caring. We love to be needed. I thought this fascinating as Heavenly Father has instilled all of these qualities in women that He would also organize a society in which to grow and develop in so many other ways. I have always loved to be around women who are uplifting; it feeds my energy and soul. It is also interesting that if that same group of women choose to focus on, or spew negative things how the spirit or energy changes in the room. I continue to marvel at our power to do good and I admire those who (even when it is hard) choose to be good, to be a beacon of light and continue anyway to choose to be a great reflection of our Father in Heaven.

I am thankful for the wonderful beautiful women around me, whether it be at the grocery store in line at check out; or my sweet and wonderful family and friends. Thank you for continuously showing me the beauty that you posses. Its better than spring time blossoms. I love you.

Hilaree

Little Prayers.

It' s late. We just finished putting Noa to bed. I am actually not usually apart of his bed time as usually I am working at night. It was a sweet thing to see that Noa and Jarom have this special time together.

Routine goes as follows-

First bath time, Noa wants to put toys on mine and Jaroms head. Then its time to count all of Noas toes. It sounds like this, Mommy starts, "One..........." Noa," chtwooo, freeeeee, sixtxxxx, ten!" ( Pretty good for just turning two.) Then it's time to get out.

Pj's!! Tonight he has his bear footie pajamas and once he is dressed he jumps on the bed and says, "dad! Monkeys!!" Which means, "say the 5 little monkeys one." So Jarom started, "5 little monkeys jumping on the bed, one fell off and bomped his head, momma called the dr. and the dr. said...............?" Noa " NO MONKEYS....... BED!"

At this point its time to wind down so Jarom takes Noa all around the room and points to his animal pictures. Noa, "Monkey, chomp-chomp (alligator), lion, giraffe and ppphhhhfeeeeeerrrrrr!!!'( which is the sound that the elephant makes.)

We say prayers, its my turn. Noa folds his arms and at the end there is a resounding AMEN!!!

Jarom then will wrap Noa up in a blanket, give him his bottle and snuggle him until he is almost asleep and then sneak out of his room with more grace than a ballerina!

I am always excited to have alone time with Jarom, I do also miss Noa when he is asleep. Bedtime is definitely a must when you have had to be on Mom/Dad duty all day. But I cannot deny that Im always so happy to see Noa first thing in the morning bright eyed and ready to seize the day.

I love my little boy! I love Jarom! They are my everything.

Good night!

Failure

Have you ever told someone about something and you think its awesome and they think its not? Or, you tell someone something and your totally dismissed? but then they hear that exact same thing from somewhere/someone else and they think that it's the BEST Idea in the world?

When I have something that I think is exciting and I am dismissed that is the BIGGEST form of failure in my mind. It makes me feel invalid, un-appreciated and discredited. This makes me not want to try. i.e. try to help, try to please, try to try. I often then will resort to avoidence and quite honestly a little bitterness

Since March has a project concerning failure and suggests that you enjoy it once in a while........ I guess I have already done the first part, I have succeded... in some wierd way. Now the question is, how am I supposed to feel joyful about my failed attempts? Especially when I love these people?

I guess no one can make you feel a certain way without your permission. Or at least that is what I have been told/taught. So I am going to practice this simple rule. I do not want to be bitter or feel, invalid, un-appreciated and discredited. And if this means sticking to the weather for a little while, then so be it. Its non of my business how you feel about me :)

Anyway, I wanted to be real about this progect and put the hard stuff up too. So hear it is.

your stuggling blogger, Hil

March Happines progect Theme 'Work'

Objectives for March Include:

1. Launch a Blog
2. Enjoy the fun of failure
3. Ask for help
4. Work smart
5. ENJOY NOW

For those of you who maybe wanted to get a head start. I launched my blog. I do not enjoy failure.... so this should be interesting. I am learning to ask for help..... but I have to admit it is totally against my nature. I prefer to do things my way or not at all. so yes, its a pride thing.
Work smart....... funny that this one should come up this month, I really have to decide what to do with my business....dissolve or take the next step. As for enjoy now, I love this challenge... I totally have the attitude of, When I get there I'll be happy, If We do this, when I weigh this then Ill be happy. You get the gist. What I will be doing is consciously looking for moments in the now that are special wonderful and ingrain them in my memory. I don't want to look back on ifs,whens, and thens. I know by doing this I won't.

My Arch-nemesis

CURSE YOU STARBUCKS!!!!


My
silent
comfort
drink

Pretty sure that I
have drank at least
this much
in my life time

by myself--->

Jarom doesn't love that
I slowly spend the wad on this stuff at 3.88$ a
pop. This is an expensive habit!
Jarom came up with this brilliant plan to help me quit.
for every day that I go without a chai he will add

3$ to a Hawaii FUND!
And if there is a day that is especially hard he will add 8$ if I don't give to temptation!

Sweet deal right?! here's the catch..... if I give in one day he'll take out 30 buckeroos.... not as cool.

Anyway! Great incentive!

I went to the doctor before I got pregnant with Noa and they said that, "Although I'm not diabetic, my sugar levels are through the roof!! If you want your hormones to work properly CUT out the sugar!!!" So at the time I was having at least 1 starbucks visit a day, I decided that This isn't worth it and I cut out that much sugar and with a little help and a little cleansing, I was happily surprised to see a positive pregnancy test.

Well now we are in the same boat and I really need to break this habit for more reasons than one.....

so with this plan, a lot of support and a little faith in myself I can kick this habit in the patootie.
Thus adding to my Happiness project of being free of this bad habit.

The End.